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The Cure for Emotional Unavailability: Discover the source of emotional unavailability, heal and have positive, successful relationships. (The Positive Relationship) Kindle Edition

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Do you suspect the person you are dating or are in a long-term relationship with is emotionally unavailable? Worse yet, have you been called, "emotionally unavailable?"

Relationships need emotional intimacy to survive.

Unfortunately, many couples struggle and eventually separate because one or both of the partners aren’t able to express emotional intimacy. The cycle of bad relationships isn't going to end unless you address this issue.

Dating an emotionally unavailable partner is exhausting and hurtful; a long-term relationship with an emotionally unavailable partner can be disheartening and unfulfilling.

Don’t let this be you.

If you're tired of being told that emotional unavailability is a relationship death sentence than this two-part, easy-to-read book will not only help you to understand and recognize emotional unavailability, it will help you find the solution.

The Cure for Emotional Unavailability will help you:

• Discover the reason why people become emotionally unavailable.
• Recognize the REAL signs of emotional unavailability and separate fact from fiction.
• Understand both the passive and aggressive types of emotional unavailability.
• Learn about the differences in behavior between dating an emotionally unavailable partner and having a long-term relationship with one.
• Become emotionally aware.
• Learn practical ways to practice self-compassion.
• Learn how to deal with defense mechanisms.
• Stop your thoughts from controlling you.
Embrace your value and experience healthy relationships.

It is possible for you to discover the source of emotional unavailability, heal and have positive, successful relationships.

Buy a copy today and start healing the relationships that matter to you.



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Stella Smith is inspiring others to overcome the things that are preventing them from experiencing positive relationships. As a speaker, author, and Life coach she helps people quickly identify and resolve areas in their life that need change.

Certified Master Life Coach
Certified Rational Emotive Behavioral Life Coach
Certified Cognitive Behavioral Life Coach
Certified Relationship Workshop Facilitator
Certified Life Purpose Life Coach
Certified Goal to Success Life Coach
Certified Public Speaking Training & Facilitator
Certified NLP Master Practitioner
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"People who struggle with emotional unavailability are emotionally hibernating, and it is possible to wake up...those who want change can change."For years Smith has skillfully led her audiences into learning how to evaluate whether a romantic relationship is worth continuing or is destined to fail based on the disruptive emotional patterns of its partner(s). She labels this unhealthy pattern emotional unavailability, a distancing mechanism/strategy which is used to reject others before they are rejected. One aspect of Smith's self-help book makes it stand out from those similar in today's market: her claim that emotional unavailability can be exhibited by both men and women.The first section of this book outlines behaviors of those who deliberately choose to be emotionally unavailable in their relationships. The affected partner may make excuses and blame others for any negative actions or results. Chapters 3 and 4 in the book provide indicators that may be observed while dating and even after making a commitment such as marriage. Because either gender might withdraw from a relationship, Smith leads the reader to determine which partner, if any, is indeed emotionally unavailable. The second section of this book offers hope that change is possible. Smith gives the reader four areas to concentrate on: question behavior and actions; show self-compassion; deal with defense mechanisms; stop thoughts from controlling you. For example, the author explains how the use of self-compassion to avoid triggering defense mechanisms can awaken both partners to the possibility of change.The book is a simple read rather than dry research. With skill, the author presents complex material by breaking it down into simple concepts and observations. Especially well done are Smith's eye-opener lists. One list in the first section of the book offers explanations of why a person might behave as emotionally unavailable. Two of the reasons mentioned are that boys may have experienced rejection by peers at school, and girls may have witnessed or experienced abuse at home. Every reader who has been in a relationship, past or present, will see a few points where they personally fail to communicate well while dating or living together. Surprisingly, great sex is not one of the indicators. Smith's lists are especially meant to reveal trends that help indicate which partner's negative behavior may be causing problems.Smith has five certifications as a life coach. She is also certified in public speaking, training, and facilitating meetings. People who get involved in the coaching business typically want to make a difference. This motivation is clearly demonstrated within the book by the author's thorough research of the subject and the use of a calm, teacher-like tone of voice. With many years of experience in her field, the author makes sure the reader doesn't receive criticism, only encouragement. Short case studies scattered through the text help illustrate Smith's points and let the reader realize that he/she is not alone in the struggle. Reading this eye-opening book almost feels like you are attending one of Smith's counseling sessions. It can help answer questions about relationships that somewhere, somehow have gone awry. In its short, yet informative, 140 pages, one can learn a healthier path to thriving relationships.RECOMMENDED by the US Review Book review by Donna Ford

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B07H8YDVR4
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ improve and impact, Inc (September 11, 2018)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ September 11, 2018
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
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Stella Smith is inspiring others to overcome the things that are preventing them from experiencing positive relationships. As a speaker, author, and Life coach she helps people quickly identify and resolve areas in their life that need change.

She is the author of The Cure for Emotional Unavailability available on Amazon and Audible as well as the "Becoming Your Emotionally Available, Authentic Self" course available on www.ThePositiveRelationship.com

She's devoted to her two young adult children, rocky road ice cream and faux celebrity sighting. While working she is supervised by her Bengal cats, Butter, and Squidley.

You can reach out to Stella at www.ThePositiveRelationship.com

Certified Master Life Coach

Certified Rational Emotive Behavioral Life Coach

Certified Cognitive Behavioral Life Coach

Certified Relationship Workshop Facilitator

Certified Life Purpose Life Coach

Certified Goal to Success Life Coach

Certified Public Speaking Training & Facilitator

Certified NLP Master Practitioner

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Mom
5.0 out of 5 stars A great easy to read overview of how relationships can go a miss and how to fix it
Reviewed in the United States on June 22, 2019
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I feel like some of the reviewers expect a clinical psychology handbook for less than 10 bucks. I thought this book was really helpful.
This book is not a clinicians book filled with statistics and dry cumbersome reading. It's written as if your friend sat you down and talked through some of the relationship behaviors you are experiencing and give some suggestions on how to fix it.
As some other reviewers have mentioned, the author does tell you about her 97$ more in-depth program to resolve your relationship issues offered on her website.
My boyfriend and I read the book together and then decided to take the course. We read the book on kindle unlimited for free and spent the $97 on the course. It was the best 100 dollars we ever spent. After working through the daily lessons for 6 weeks we have addressed all of the issues that were bothering both of us. It helped us talk about our future and our fears. I have been to counseling in the past and this was the real deal.

Most importantly my boyfriend was able to figure out why he was afraid to commit and he proposed! Wish we would have read this book and done the course a year ago!
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Short Stack
4.0 out of 5 stars Truthful
Reviewed in the United States on October 6, 2019
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Many books give advice to those who are dating. I have been married to my husband for 18 years. I am not willing to walk away from a problem we didn’t know had a name. You dedicating a full chapter was exactly what I needed to present the boulder that is keeping my husband from becoming my best friend. Thank you.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Very Enlightening
Reviewed in the United States on February 10, 2021
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I recommend this book to everyone just based on the fact that many of us have traits of being emotionally unavailable. I only recently realized that I'm unavailable, have been most of my life and never put it together. Two divorces and a string of bad relationships sent me on a quest to figure out the reason why. Since I was common dominator it made sense that the problem must be with me due to my choices in men. Yes, at the end she offers a choice to purchase her program. It's a choice people, doesn't take away from the message she is conveying. The book's material has given me helpful insight on my issues and where to go from here, to release the fear. Because we can be our own worst enemy. It's of our own making.
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chassidy wilson
3.0 out of 5 stars It’s okay
Reviewed in the United States on June 2, 2020
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Great description of what emotional unavailability looks like in a person/partner but I dislike that I have to purchase tons of other books.. feels like a scam at the end.
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Luis V.
5.0 out of 5 stars Very real!
Reviewed in the United States on September 17, 2022
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The book is very spot on. Most of the examples are our day to day life and that alone makes it very realistic. I was able to learn about myself more than about others.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Working on a new relationship
Reviewed in the United States on December 11, 2020
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I was researching emotionally unavailable people when I came across this book. I learned so much about myself that I did not know.
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Charles
4.0 out of 5 stars A worthwhile read, but beware the online up-sell at the end...
Reviewed in the United States on December 3, 2018
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This book provides some helpful insights and advice regarding emotional unavailability, but in the end it felt more like thinly-veiled advertisement for far more expensive online programs. I appreciated the insights but not the up-sell attempt.
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KIMBERLY GALLION
5.0 out of 5 stars Interesting explanation you can easily understand
Reviewed in the United States on December 18, 2018
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I found the explanations hit close to home for myself and my ex husband. I would definately suggest this book to others.
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Aloo Singh
4.0 out of 5 stars Interesting book, but the course is gone
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on October 28, 2023
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The Cure for Emotional Unavailability: Discover the source of emotional unavailability, heal and have positive, successful relationships.: 1 (The Positive Relationship)
Price paid: £7.06 July 2023

After reading some of the other reviews saying that the book was helpful and it encouraged people to do her course, and they found that really good... I thought it was worth reading and seeing what the course was all about. I was tempted.

But at the back of the book are the details for the website for the course, as well as the social media accounts – none of them exist now. So enjoy the book, it's all you'll have if you were hoping for the course I'm afraid.
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Angeles
5.0 out of 5 stars muy interesante
Reviewed in Mexico on July 4, 2019
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gracias, aprendí mucho, sin embargo me habría gustado leer algunos consejos para las personas que tenemos a alguien emocionalmente inaccesible cerca. Pues en algún momento de su libro dice que "dejarlos" no es buena idea.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Practical n enjoyable!
Reviewed in Brazil on April 19, 2019
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Very clear and practical! It is such a breakthrough to finally learn more about this topic! I enjoy it from beginning to end and read very quickly too!
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Lesley
4.0 out of 5 stars Finding the emotional
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on December 6, 2018
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Good read
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