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Love WITH Accountability: Digging up the Roots of Child Sexual Abuse Paperback – October 1, 2019
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2020 Lambda Literary Award winner for best LGBTQ anthology!
Despite the current survivor-affirming awareness around sexual violence, child sexual abuse, most notably when it’s a family member or friend, is still a very taboo topic. There are approximately 42 million child sexual abuse survivors in the U.S. and millions of bystanders who look the other way as the abuse occurs and cover for the harm-doers with no accountability. Documentary filmmaker and survivor of child sexual abuse and adult rape, Aishah Shahidah Simmons invites diasporic Black people to join her in transformative storytelling that envisions a world that ends child sexual abuse without relying on the criminal justice system. Love WITH Accountability features compelling writings by child sexual abuse survivors, advocates, and Simmons’s mother, who underscores the detrimental impact of parents/caregivers not believing their children when they disclose their sexual abuse. This collection explores disrupting the inhumane epidemic of child sexual abuse, humanely.
- Print length360 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherAK Press
- Publication dateOctober 1, 2019
- Dimensions5.25 x 0.75 x 8 inches
- ISBN-101849353522
- ISBN-13978-1849353526
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"With this brave and healing anthology of truth-telling about sexual abuse within Black families, Aishah Shahidah Simmons sets an example for all families. If we could all raise just one generation of children without violence or the threat of violence, who knows what might be possible?" —Gloria Steinem
"[Love WITH Accountability] suggests that we need to think about accountability as a radical form of love, one that gets at the root of our social ills and pushes us to think beyond our current reality—to imagine other ways of relating to each other, to recognize the role we all play in upholding a violent culture and work toward transformative justice. Love WITH Accountability envisions and offers us steps toward creating that more equitable and collectively oriented world." —Jamia Wilson, Women's Review of Books
"Aishah Shahidah Simmons's Love WITH Accountability: Digging Up the Roots of Child Sexual Abuse is a book that is wonderfully and sadly timeless. Simmons and the courageously skilled authors she's assembled write their bodies, memories and imaginations into calcified cracks and bleeding silences. Each piece opens up the absolute terror and consequence of sexual abuse of children, but somehow the entire book is as interested in looking back as it is at looking forward. Love With Accountability reminds me that willful people make liberation happen and willful people and willful art can obliterate terror." —Kiese Laymon, author of Heavy: An American Memoir
"Love with Accountability is an honoring of our ancestors who dared to struggle, a gift to our movements fighting to create thriving communities and a guide for future generations to continue this work. Through Simmons self-work and community of activists, leaders and scholars, they have produced a collection of writings to expose painful truths, while also providing a roadmap for accountability that is based on love, not more false solutions. This book is for anyone who is willing to do the difficult, yet necessary work to end the global epidemic of child sexual abuse." —Charlene A. Carruthers, author of Unapologetic: A Black, Queer and Feminist Mandate for Radical Movements
“Aishah Shahidah Simmons is always on time. Her film NO! helped me understand myself as a survivor. Now she offers us Love WITH Accountability, a book that guides readers through a new terrain of healing from childhood sexual abuse.... We are not alone, and we don't have to abandon love in order to live in justice. We have each other, and we are claiming our lives and our families, our transformation, and our healing, together. Thank you for this sharp, tender, reshaping of a text.” —adrienne maree brown, author of Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good
"To say that this anthology is long overdue doesn’t even begin to cover it. For decades, and lifetimes, LGBTQIAA survivors of color have been the backbone of the anti-violence movement and frequently their voices have been pushed into the cracks of the mainstream. A fierce offering of complex, powerful, necessary narratives and critique, Love With Accountability: Digging Up the Roots of Child Sexual Abuse dreams a new future into being: one where survivors are centered, and where we can dare to believe that accountability and true justice is possible. This is a gift of a book and the ripples of it’s impact will be with us for decades to come." —Jennifer Patterson, Queering Sexual Violence: Radical Voices from Within the Anti-Violence Movement
"Not only have the contributors to this anthology found the bravery to share their survival stories, they have also developed practical and urgent solutions to one of the of most pervasive forms of violence impacting our communities at this time in history. . . . This is a book that should be taught in all classes that address gender, violence, family structure, parenting, race, sexuality, disability and equality and read in organizations that address any of those issues as well. Thank you Aishah Simmons for once again revealing an urgent paradigm of healing, a new and necessary definition of love." —Alexis Pauline Gumbs PhD, author of M Archive: After the End of the World
"As a society, we’ve gravitated toward solutions to end sexual violence and child sexual abuse that are more about shortcut and hiding and less about compassion and truth. Through their own suffering, healing, thriving, and deep wisdom, Aishah Shahidah Simmons and her contributors to the Love With Accountability: Digging Up the Roots of Child Sexual Abuse anthology offer us a path forward that is real, compassionate, and true. This work fills me with hope!" —Terri Poore, Policy Director, Raliance (National Alliance to End Sexual Violence)
"With Love With Accountability, Aishah has done it yet again. And she brings an even greater team of radical powerhouses with her this time around. Let us rejoice in this gift of, as Darnell L. Moore notes in the Foreword, 'documented practices that might move survivors in the direction of healing' and 'critical and radical tools that … transform harm doers.' Let us rejoice. Love WITH Accountability is here." —Heidi R. Lewis, Ph.D., Director and Associate Professor of Feminist & Gender Studies at Colorado College
Aishah Shahidah Simmons is an award-winning Black feminist lesbian documentary filmmaker, activist, cultural worker, and international lecturer. A child sexual abuse and adult rape survivor, she is the producer/director of the film, NO! The Rape Documentary, and the creator of the #LoveWITHAccountability Project. Simmons is a Just Beginnings Collaborative Fellow, and a Visiting Scholar at the University of Pennsylvania where she is also affiliated with the Ortner Center on Violence and Abuse in Relationships.
About the Author
Aishah Shahidah Simmons is an award-winning Black feminist lesbian documentary filmmaker, activist, cultural worker, and international lecturer. A child sexual abuse and adult rape survivor, she is the producer/director of the film, NO! The Rape Documentary, and the creator of the #LoveWITHAccountability Project. Simmons is a Just Beginnings Collaborative Fellow, and a Visiting Scholar at the University of Pennsylvania where she is also affiliated with the Ortner Center on Violence and Abuse in Relationships.
Darnell L. Moore is the head of Strategy and Programs at BreakthroughUS. His writings have been published in Ebony, Advocate, Vice, The Guardian, and MSNBC. Along with Tamura A. Lomax and Monica J. Casper, he serves as a series editor of The Feminist Wire Books. He is the author of No Ashes in the Fire: Coming of Age Black & Free in America (Nation Books), a 2018 New York Times notable book of the year.
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I believe the silence around child sexual abuse in the family plays a direct role in creating a culture of sexual violence in all other institutions—religious, academic, activist, political, and professional. We cannot and must not address rape, including campus rape, without also addressing child sexual abuse. For too many victim-survivors of adult rape, child sexual abuse is a precursor. Ending sexual violence starts with ending child sexual abuse, and ending child sexual abuse starts in the family, in religious institutions, schools, and other spaces in communities. For me, and for many survivors of child sexual abuse, the family is simultaneously a source of deep pain and love. I am committed to creating models of holding family members accountable without suppressing that love. And I am not alone.
Thirty-seven years after Pop-pop first molested me, I invited an intergenerational group of twenty-nine diasporic Black cisgender women and men, transgender men, and gender non-binary people to join me in an online #LoveWITHAccountability forum that I curated and edited. The forum was published for ten days, October 17–28, 2018, in the online publication The Feminist Wire. Each of the contributors to the online forum explored what love with accountability could look and feel like in the context of child sexual abuse.
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Violence does not happen in a vacuum. There are approximately 42 million child sexual abuse survivors in the U.S. and millions of bystanders who look the other way as the abuse happens and cover for the harm doers.
In her landmark text, The Cancer Journals, the late award-winning Black, feminist, lesbian, mother, warrior poet Audre Lorde wrote, “Without community there is no liberation only the most vulnerable and temporary armistice between an individual and her oppression.”
I am interested in and committed to co-creating communal responses to intra-racial, gender-based violence outside of the criminal injustice system. I believe people who commit harm in our communities must be held accountable
Black feminist scholar and cultural critic Dr. bell hooks wrote, “For me, forgiveness and compassion are always linked: how do we hold people accountable for wrongdoing and yet at the same time remain in touch with their humanity enough to believe in their capacity to be transformed?”
I do not believe incarceration is the answer, in fact, I am opposed to imprisonment as it operates in the United States. Prisons are not focused on rehabilitation, but instead are a kind of modern-day enslavement as the incarcerated who are disproportionately Black, Indigenous, and Latinx, are raped and degraded. Too often family and community bystanders ignore child sexual abuse; the prison system does worse, facilitating its continuation. Equally as important, so many U.S. laws that are in place to protect victim/survivors of child sexual abuse and other forms of sexual and domestic violence end up severely punishing survivors and harming more than helping. The national coalition, Survived and Punished, has not only documented this frightening reality, but its members, “organize to de-criminalize efforts to survive domestic and sexual violence, support and free criminalized survivors, and abolish gender violence, policing, prisons, and deportations.”
Product details
- Publisher : AK Press; 1st edition (October 1, 2019)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 360 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1849353522
- ISBN-13 : 978-1849353526
- Item Weight : 13.6 ounces
- Dimensions : 5.25 x 0.75 x 8 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #761,110 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #665 in Child Abuse (Books)
- #1,392 in Feminist Theory (Books)
- #2,851 in African American Demographic Studies (Books)
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About the authors
Aishah Shahidah Simmons is a winner of the 2020 Lambda Literary Award for 'Love WITH Accountability: Digging Up the Roots of Child Sexual Abuse' in the LGBTQ Anthology category. She is also an award-winning documentary filmmaker of NO! The Rape Documentary, cultural worker, activist, and international lecturer whose work, since 1994, examines the intersections of race, gender, sexuality, and sexual violence. Her films and writings are informed by her lived experiences as a Black feminist lesbian, child sexual abuse, adult rape survivor, and Buddhist who is committed to disrupting and ending the inhumane, humanely.
In late fall 2020, Aishah was named one of nineteen 2020 Soros Justice Fellows in support of the third part of her trilogy of survivor-centered cultural works that seek to disrupt and end adult rape and CSA in Black communities without policing and prisons. She is also enrolled in a two-year certification program to become a Mindfulness Meditation Teacher, which she views as a continuation of her 18-year Buddhist practice.
Darnell L. Moore is Editor-at-Large at CASSIUS (an iOne digital platform) and formerly a senior editor and correspondent at Mic. He is co-managing editor at The Feminist Wire and an editor of The Feminist Wire Books (a series of University of Arizona Press). He is also a writer-in-residence at the Center on African American Religion, Sexual Politics and Social Justice at Columbia University. Along with NFL player Wade Davis II, he co-founded YOU Belong, a social good company focused on the development of diversity initiatives.
A prolific writer, Darnell has been published in various media outlets including MSNBC, The Guardian, Huffington Post, EBONY, The Root, The Advocate, OUT Magazine, Gawker, Truth Out, VICE, Guernica, Mondoweiss, Thought Catalog, Good Men Project and others, as well as numerous academic journals including QED: A Journal in GLBTQ World Making, Women Studies Quarterly, Ada: A Journal of Gender, New Media & Technology, Transforming Anthropology, Black Theology: An International Journal, and Harvard Journal of African American Policy, among others. He also edited the art book Nicolaus Schmidt: Astor Place, Broadway, New York: A Universe of Hairdressers (Kerber Verlag) and has published essays in several edited books.
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